Thursday, April 29, 2010

Comparison

I read a status on facebook last night that really got me thinking. It was a quote by someone (don't remember who) and it went something like this not, word for word. "Comparison is like acid to your soul." I believe this statement to be true on so many different levels. For example one of the more "toxic" is appearance. If we compare ourselves by the way we look size, shape, height, and also the clothing we wear it can do so much unnecessary damage to our being. We become self conscience, we may start to think we aren't good enough and so on...it is acid. There are other ways that comparing can harm us. Possessions and relationships are two other that I can think of right off the top of my head. I see the possessions comparison a lot with my kids. So and so had this or that why don't I or why can't we get one? But sometimes I see it in myself especially when we were looking for a new house. My line of thought was why can't we afford a nice (big) house like most of our friends have? Does it really matter in the end? Nope as long as we are together and are safe that should really be all that matters. It really is a struggle though, I hate to admit that but I am human. For me personally I think that the relationships are the hardest for me. Growing up I moved from school to school and so I don't have friends from my childhood like other people. A lot of times I feel like an outsider, though I really am not. What I really am is a homebody. I am outgoing and friendly so most people don't really know this about me but my favorite thing to do is chill at home. Though I do love getting together with people I am usually content to just be home with the family. Hearing about people getting together over the weekend sometimes hurts but I didn't call anyone so I can't like it bother me. Also with relationships is the comparison of marriages. This is such a dangerous toxic acid subject to even think about comparing. No marriage is the same just like no two people are the same and to even try and compare them is like comparing apples to oranges to bananas and grapes, just silly to do. So now that this post has gone all over place all of this to say, with the Lord's help I will do my best not to compare me, my husband, my children, my possessions and my relationships to anyone else. I don't want or need that kind of toxicity in my life.

6 comments:

Together We Save said...

Wow - I had never really thought about it but that is so true! I know this is something I really need to work on.

Tee aka The Diva's Thoughts said...

You make a valide point and I totally agree with you it's just that it is extremely difficult if not impossible to not compare ourselves. *sigh*

Kristin said...

Sounds like you have a good "grip" on comparison and it's perspective. Unfortunately, because of sin, it's a struggle for all, whether they admit it or not! Try and focus on contentment...I'm always reminding myself of this:)

sarahgrace said...

Great post, Tonya and so true!

kelli said...

We did a bible study and this was one of the topics in the book. So true. God makes us who we are for a reason. We all have different gifts and things to offer :)

Adina said...

what a great post and reminder to be content!